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Emotional expert:5 of the most neglected relationship killers

If you wonder what causes people to break up, you might say money, lying, or cheating. And that is true. But, like death by a thousand paper cuts, there are even more insidious everyday habits that kill relationships too.

For nearly three decades, I’ve had a front-row seat to thousands of relationships. My ongoing research—a long-term study funded by the National Institutes of Health since 1986—gives me the opportunity to study, closely and over time, critical patterns in marriage and divorce, romance, and relationships.

Today, here’s what I know for sure: Small stuff is a big deal.

To create a truly happy, healthy relationship, every couple, of every stripe, should take the most overlooked and under-discussed relationship killers to heart.

Here are the five most overlooked relationship killers and solutions to those bad habits.

1. Skipping me-time.

Many couples say that space or giving each other plenty of time for themselves is the single most important reason they think their relationship survived.

Time alone gives partners those vital moments to process thoughts, pursue hobbies, and develop new topics to talk about! Too much space or long separation isn’t good, but partners who pursue their own hobbies, interests, and friends tend to be happier than those who depend on each other for everything.

Solution: Talk to your partner about the benefits of “me-time,” and emphasize that you still want couple time, too. Don’t keep secrets, and share with your partner some of the fun or interesting things that happened when you were on your own.

2. Assuming you know each other.

Couples who have been together for many years sometimes believe that they know everything about their partner.

Unlike when they were first dating, they stop asking each other questions and learning more about each other. Such loss of curiosity can be lethal. I call this the silent dining syndrome. Couples go out together to a restaurant but then don’t talk.

Solution: To stay happy in a relationship, partners need to talk to each other every single day, for at least 10 minutes, about anything other than the home, kids, work, or their relationship.

Ask each other questions, just like when you were first dating! A side benefit of getting to know one another again is an increase in passion and excitement.

3. Staying mum about “minor” annoyances.

A lot of couples sweep little annoyances and pet peeves under the rug. Over time, though, these small everyday irritations can add up and put a relationship on life support.

It’s actually the slight nuisances that accumulate if not dealt with. Later on, they become big problems in relationships.

Solution: Contrary to popular belief, couples need to sweat the small stuff in their relationship to be happy and together over the long haul.

Bring up your grievances in a constructive way—pick the right time and situation to discuss, ditch all other distractions, use your “I” statements, and avoid using the words “never” and “always.”

4. Waiting for special occasions to express love.

Many couples make the mistake of waiting for special occasions, such as birthdays, anniversaries, or Hallmark-type holidays, to express loving feelings to one another.

One key finding from my study is that when husbands do not receive frequent affective affirmation from their wives (defined as words, gestures, or acts that show him he is noticed, appreciated, and loved), that couple is two times more likely to divorce.

Solution: Do or say something frequently to show your partner that he or she is valued and noticed. Sometimes a goodbye peck on the cheek or a thoughtful compliment is all it takes to make a partner feel loved and appreciated.

5. Seeing the glass half-empty.

Many couples only talk about what’s going wrong in their relationship. They end up focusing on the negative aspects of their relationship.

In my study, couples who also concentrate on what’s working well—on the glass half full—were much happier over time than those who purely try to fix their problems.

Solution: Make a list of the top five things that are going well in your relationship and work on strengthening those positive aspects.

Focusing on what’s working with the two of you motivates you both to move forward in that relationship. Also, an optimistic approach will rub off on your partner and attract you to others who are also seeing the world as half full.

It’s vital to understand that everyday bad habits can destroy relationships over time. With simple solutions to address the five most overlooked relationship killers, you can continue to sustain a long-term happy, healthy relationship.

Dr. Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., (aka The Love Doctor®) is a relationship expert, professor, therapist, research scientist, speaker, and author of five best-selling books, including Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship and 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great both available on Amazon. Learn more about her on her website.

This article was originally published at Huffington Post. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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